@tim Happy to chat at more length but it'll be tonight after I get in from work.
@tim 👍 Nothing revolutionary and if anything, somewhat tangentially related to some comments you've made recently. Pushing through that conditioned fear response, often to find my Ego shoves emotions in my face that try to hold me back. It's a new skill that takes energy and practice to apply.
Ironic CW. Potential Contentious Attitude
Kind of a painful night if sleep as I appear to have twisted my lumbar region quite uncomfortably again. I did spend a lot of time crashed out on an inflatable PVC soda yesterday (not like that you filthy-minded people).
Today I have to mobilise a teenager who is off to Spain tomorrow. They're also probably very hungover after knocking back the rum at yesterday's summer party.
For now: coffee and Peaky Blinders in the hope it'll inspire me to write.
Kids are gone to school and work. @Jo is on a training course. The house is cool and quiet, except for the sound of birds in the garden. Happy Solstice, folks (if that's your thing). 🌞
personal safety, alternatives to police, stalking
@plasma I was thinking about you the other day and wondering how you were doing. That's rough, to say the least. My personal advice would to be careful about immersing yourself in the stalker's world too much, even to try and understand them. I did exactly that several years ago (I wasn't the victim, but am close to them) and it messed me up badly. I'm still dealing with the impact years later. Just...be careful. 👍
Well, tonight's reading and quiet time time didn't happen. As @Jo came home from 12 hours at work and we talked about stuff on the sofa for an hour, pretty much non-stop. So that was particularly fucking awesome. 💜
@fasciation It's a conditioned response. You're more likely to experience anxiety over something you've had prior experience of being painful, threatening or traumatising than something new that you haven't had the same experience with.
I was, coincidentally, reading some of the neuroscience behind this earlier today. Your amygdala is going to be reacting before your cortex has a chance to understand there is no threat, by which time it's too late: fight, flight, freeze has kicked in.
@_ben Looks freaky and interesting. I'll have a gander later...maybe with the light off...
@_ben Bad idea IMO. If I unfollow someone, it's for a reason. Most reactionary arse holes I'd just happily continue to block if they decided to be a dick about things after being notified I'd unfollowed them, but I know plenty of vulnerable people who wouldn't handle it well. An unfollow notification has too much potential to enable abuse to make it worth it. You're a nice fella, you'd use it for good. Too many people wouldn't.
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