My #introduction toot!
I'm Andy and I'm the admin of mentalhealth.social.
My interests are covered in my profile. On #mentalhealth I've briefly known the Black Dog in the past and work hard to keep him on a leash. My wife lives with #BPD bundled with #anxiety and #depression (though has a grip on all of them) and her illnesses are one of the things that drive me to be so passionate about #MH support and care. Which is why I set up this Masto instance; a safe place to socialise and chat. 👍
A lot of #mentalhealth therapy modalities like CBT and ACT talk about "Acceptance". This can be confusing or difficult to accept for many as we are accustomed to equate acceptance to surrender. Well, it is not!
Acceptance = Acknowledging something exists. This is good.
Surrender = Believing nothing can be done about it. Not so much
The following graphic depicts very clearly What is acceptance.
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Less Obvious Factors That Lead To #mentalhealth Issues:
- Saying yes to everything
- Trying to fix/ save everyone
- People pleasing
- Putting others needs above yours
- Defining a "successful life" based on another's/ society's expectations
Your mental health matters. Prioritize it
I Have Had #mentalhealth Issues: I'm not seeking attention or sympathy.
I'm sharing because:
• Many suffer in silence and I want those people to know that they aren't alone.
• There's times I haven't been easy to be around - I'm sorry, but that're most difficult for me too.
• The more I've hid my "inner world", the more distant I've felt from everyone.
• More people should talk about it, share and appreciate the "real" version of us not the"filtered" version of social media. #endthestigma
I work for Mama Cash, an amazing NGO that supports women, girls, trans and intersex rights. We have an environmental justice portfolio that funds those that suffer the most from climate change. Unfortunately we're almost out of funds, so we're trying to raise at least 20K.
My goal is to raise 500 euro. If you can, please help by donating: https://for.mamacash.org/fundraiser/Gina91
The largest donation will receive a personalized gift from me 🎉
Rethink your #mentalhealth standards:
It's NOT REALISTIC to be...
- Happy no matter what happens
- Relaxed in every circumstance
- Confident in every situation
- Secure with everything your partner does
- Satisfied with everything you have in life
- Accepting of every flaw you have
There is no perfect "mental health standard" in these regard, much like there isn't a perfect "beauty standard". Talk about it #endthestigma
So I just logged into #WoW Classic and completely randomly ran into a guy in Feralas. This is a person I met in AV (opposite faction to me) back in Vanilla and PvP'd against a lot and we became good friends. He made me the Honorary Finn I am today. We've stayed in touch for nearly 15 years.
We duelled (him 60, me 49) and I almost nailed the fight.
This was possibly the most poignant thing I've done in Classic. We met...again.
Sounds silly. Means a lot. Love you, mate. ❤️
Hm. I need a gentle day today. #selfcare
@ideasmithy Mindfulness is helpful is keeping you grounded in the now. Which in turn prevents the pendulum of thoughts from swinging too widely and erratically. The whole idea of healthy mental process is not about avoiding negative emotions (we need them) but to prevent those emotions from becoming dysfunctional for us. So anxiety prepares you for challenge but shouldn’t overwhelm you. Anger keeps you pointed in the moral north but should become destructive. Mindfulness helps that! Makes sense?
How boomers saw gen-x (in 1990): okay whiny I can concede, but penny loafers? https://rolfpotts.com/time-twentysomething-1990/
Any Java devs that can point me at best practices for global constants? I've a Spring app I've inherited, have to compare some values at runtime against magic strings (customer codes) for some conditional logic, but don't want to embed them deep in the API.
(I'm not a Java developer by trade and haven't really touched it in 20 years.)
Dev. AppSec/InfoSec guy. Writer. Hubs. Dad. Punk of Many Colours. Mental Health First Aider & Advocate. Middle-aged Northern Brit. Sweary. Simplifying life.
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